Wow! it feels so, so good to have ended the month of June on a very high note. Not like I started with a low points or something but I am just glad I found something that I did not even know I needed.
Over the last 30 days, I gladly participated in the Nathaniel Bassey#HallelujahChallenge on Instagram Live and I watched it grow from strength to strength. To think that some were criticizing the entire revival was totally baffling to me. There we were, worshiping with our hearts and someone even went as far as thinking it was a competition against Ramadan. I was so glad to see that that school of thought was shut down fast. Continue reading “My Name is Jadesola Odujole and I’m a Hallelujan!”→
I can almost swear that I get some of my best ideas while riding in buses. I know it is weird but over time, it is what I have noticed (although The Bourgie Life was not born in a bus). This can definitely qualify as one of them.
Since this is my first post of the year, I say welcome to 2017. I have just one prayer for you – that you achieve everything you set out to achieve last year but could not, due to some reason or the other.
From the title of the post you can guess where I am headed – What exactly is your personal theme for 2017. Not the one they said at your watch night service or that your pastor declared but what are YOU saying (based on what you have heard from God) about your year.
Let me simplify this, for me apart from the fact that the churches (you read that right) I attend declared 2017 as the year of Undeniable Exploits, Manifesting God’s glory, pleasant surprises and Light & shining, I took out time to do a reset and ask God what he was saying to me about the year.
That is what 2017 is about for me. Simply put.
2017 is my year of Doing. No more sitting on my hands and going to conferences and coming back the same waiting for something, anything to happen to me. It is quite clear that if anything is to happen in/to my life, it is up to me by the power of the Holy Spirit.
That’s why I do not talk about how emotionally drained I “think” I am, I just do what I am led to do. That is why I started TheBourgieLife and by God’s grace, the end of the year will be better than the beginning for us. That is why I partnered with Tolulope Balogun of Travelotus to bring Lotus Tours, trust me guys, the next trip will blow your mind. That is why Kamari Luxe, our organic skincare company will not just grow, it will thrive.
I still have a number of things that he revealed to me that I will be doing and I know it will end in praise. Osheyyyy!
I implore you to find out what God wants you to do in the year 2017. Your personal word. That is all you need as an anchor for the times ahead because as they say, it will get worse before it gets better but then, we that wait upon the Lord shall have our stength renewed.
Now that you have come to the end of the article, don’t you think your friends should read this too? Why not share it with them as well!
Till next time.
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What a Time to Be Alive!
The Year is ending and there is so much left undone. Your goals, your plans, your dreams, your aspirations, all that, just there. Where did the time go?
You watched everytime as each person started out on their dream or goal. Although, you were happy for them, you still asked yourself, When will it be my turn?
You read that right the first time, don’t second guess yourself. I do it so I know that’s what you just did. ☺
I’ll tell you what it means in a bit.
Have you ever been at some sort of crossroad and everyone around you is telling you the “right” direction to turn. Some well-meaning people even do it a very unobtrusive way, they prod you along but you just don’t know they’re doing it.
Oh well, I’ve been there. Didn’t bite any heads off but now I know those to take advice from and those to just ignore.
Before I veer off the topic (Done that already), here’s what I found S. H. A. P. E. to mean. If you don’t agree, there’s nothing I can do. It’s my truth. Find yours.
S – Spiritual Gifts, Do you know yours?
H – Heart, what drives you, what’s your passion?
A- Abilities, leave paper, what can you really do?
P – Personality, what is my personality like? How do I relate with other types of personalities?
E – Experience, what are the things I’ve been through in life that makes my story unique
I’ll be explaining this in depth in a different post but please let this breathe in your mind.
Before you wonder what brought this on, I’m just being my melancholic self. One thing that will help me get through this is knowing that I have Jesus Christ and therefore I have Joy!
I hope this helps you in some type of way.
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I might not be an authority on this matter like some of you out there but I definitely have some experience as some of my friends will attest to.
Quick Disclaimer: I do not, I repeat, I do not and will never date a married man or a man that even has the slightest chance or having a girlfriend. I refuse to join the league of side chicks (No matter how much hope Olivia Pope gives them).
Some of these signs I have seen firsthand, others I have read about and feel like I can relate with them. If you feel the list isn’t complete feel free to add yours in the comment section and if you feel like I have made a mistake, add that one too.
1. He wants to keep your friendship/relationship private.
When a guy likes you, he practically wants to show you off to the whole world, figuratively. A man who has a partner would even be selective with the kind of friends he introduces you to. There will be no evidence of you on his Social Media pages, that’s if he allows you to know his real handles and all. If he introduces you to one or two of his friends, don’t you wonder why its only those two friends you keep meeting.
2. He’s only available at odd hours.
I know this one guy that always ends our calls right before he leaves his car and enters his house. He even tried to make it all mushy and stuff but trust a girl’s stalking instincts, I went through all his social media profiles and saw just how mushy one can get with your own kids, I blocked him danudanu.
Some will often talk to you when their wife is away and would vanish once she appears. He’ll now start calling you Mr.Jude or something. Mthcheeew.
3. He never invites you over
Or at least give you the opportunity to graciously refuse. Some even go as far as faking incidents on the day you’re supposed to come over and then the “let’s just go and see a movie” line pops up. Again.
He doesn’t want you at his place because his family might be at home or he doesn’t want you to see the evidence of his other life.
4. He is good at making promises… And even better at not keeping them.
Some might see this as a guy thing but I think its a Married cheater’s syndrome. They’d make you believe they can do just about anything to get you satisfied even if it means shaking the heavens and the earth. Trust me, the only thing they move well is their lying tongue.
Here are some the lines I’ve heard;
• You’re in school – ” Can you sell stuff? I’d send you some things to sell to give you some extra money” Till I graduated, shingbai i no see
• You’re starting a new business – ” I’ll put in a large order next week because some of my friends might be interested” Na so, you go wait tire!!
• You need a job – “I’ll speak to some of my friends, something will definitely turn up” hehehehe I’m still waiting for feedback.
5. Your mind tells you something is not right
This is where I’d say God really helps. When you start feeling like something about this new guy is just off, you’re probably right. The sad thing is that some of us ignore that voice and end up making terrible, terrible mistakes.
I see this sort of relationship as a train on its track, you’ll always come back to the same stop, no progression at all. Except if there’s a derailment and we all know that’s a huge disaster waiting to happen. No relationship prospers from false hopes, lying, sneaking around etc. Don’t chose to be the other woman.
Let me end with this story a friend witnessed at a bus stop in Abuja:
A married woman was attacking a young lady at a bus stop one day. It was an embarrassing sight. She kept shouting at her.”Leave my husband alone for me” “Let me enjoy the money we’ve worked for” “Husband snatcher oshi” The girl’s guilt was as plain as day, she didn’t even deny it.
As insults were raining, a Jeep stopped and parked. Out came a well dressed woman to broker peace. The married woman was quick to narrate her own.side of the story while the young girl kept hissing and making side comments. The rich woman kept.trying to calm the married one down.
“Wait o, can’t you remember me?” The rich woman suddenly asked the married woman. “Remember those days when I was begging you to leave my husband for me and my children”. At this point the young girl’s interest was piqued. “When I was begging you to leave my husband then, you didn’t answer, now you know how it feels”. The rich woman just went back into her car and drove off. Onlookers were amazed.
That was when the young finally had guts to say “so you dey do this business before, na me and you go share that your husband last last“. The married woman had no other words to say and no energy left to fight.